Better Husband Blog

One of the core messages of my approach to relational coaching is personal responsibility. In a healthy marriage, both partners contribute to the outcome, but your work as a man begins with your side of the street: how you show up, how you regulate y...

For many men, the most damaging voice in their marriage is not their wife’s frustration or criticism. It is the voice already running in their own head.

That voice shows up the moment something goes wrong. You forget something important. You say the...

Marriage isn’t a set-it-and-forget-it kind of relationship. It’s a living, breathing connection that needs attention, intention, and consistent effort. Yet so many men fall into the trap of thinking that once things are “good enough,” the work is don...

Did you know that stepping back in a marriage can create distance just as effectively as arguments or conflict? Avoiding disagreements, letting your spouse make most decisions, and retreating into your own world might feel easygoing or considerate—bu...

Most marriages don’t break down because of major betrayals or explosive fights. They erode through small moments that feel insignificant at the time but slowly create distance. One of the most common and damaging moments looks harmless on the surface...

Many men work hard at their marriages. They read the books, listen to the podcasts, and walk into their homes with honest intentions to do better. Yet when the moment of connection arrives, their behavior shifts. Instead of showing up as the grounded...

In Jurassic Park, there’s a moment that illustrates the exact dilemma many men face in their marriage. The T-Rex emerges from the trees during the first attack, and the characters respond in three different ways. One man panics and runs. Another free...

Some men excel in every arena except the one that matters most. They build companies, win championships, transform industries, and even set records. But at home, the relationship quietly falls apart.

Michael Jordan, Tom Brady, Jeff Bezos, Tiger Wood...

Many men feel blindsided when their wife says they’re emotionally unavailable. The phrase can sound vague, confusing, or even accusatory. You may wonder, “What does that even mean? What exactly does she want from me?” And for many steady, even-keeled...

Marriage rarely falls apart overnight. More often, disconnect builds slowly. You see it in the small moments where partners withdraw instead of leaning in, avoid rather than repair, or try to handle everything alone until the relationship feels dista...

Most men are trained to scan for what’s broken. It’s instinctive: assess the problem, fix what’s failing, and move on to the next issue. But in a marriage, that mindset can quietly work against both you and your partner. When your attention is pulled...

When your wife is upset, emotional, or confrontational, it’s easy to get reactive. There are a myriad of possibilities for how you could react, but some of the most common ones for men are: shutting down, getting defensive, or pushing back. Whatever ...