Better Husband Blog

One of the core messages of my approach to relational coaching is personal responsibility. In a healthy marriage, both partners contribute to the outcome, but your work as a man begins with your side of the street: how you show up, how you regulate y...

If you’ve ever walked away from an argument with your wife feeling exhausted and frustrated, thinking, “We’re right back here again,” you’re not alone. Many men notice that regardless of what the argument is about, the outcome feels eerily familiar. ...

There are moments in marriage when a single comment can feel heavier than it should. A question about parenting, a reminder about something forgotten, or feedback about how a situation was handled can land with surprising force.

Instead of respondin...

Every man who is serious about growth eventually runs into the same moment.

Things have been going well. The habits are steady and communication feels better. There’s momentum.

Then one day, it slips. Patience runs out and old patterns show up. May...

Most marriages don’t break down because of major betrayals or explosive fights. They erode through small moments that feel insignificant at the time but slowly create distance. One of the most common and damaging moments looks harmless on the surface...

Most husbands genuinely want to be good listeners, but the moment a conversation carries emotional weight, the mind starts racing. The focus shifts from understanding to planning the next sentence. The goal becomes saying the right thing instead of a...

When a woman says she’s unhappy, unloved, or unsure she wants to stay, it rarely comes out of nowhere. It isn’t “just another fight.” It’s an accumulation of years of trying, asking, hoping, and not receiving what she needed. Many men don’t recognize...

Some men excel in every arena except the one that matters most. They build companies, win championships, transform industries, and even set records. But at home, the relationship quietly falls apart.

Michael Jordan, Tom Brady, Jeff Bezos, Tiger Wood...

Most men don’t realize something important about themselves:

They are already relationally skilled.

They already know how to be patient, calm, empathetic, and emotionally steady because they do it every day at work, with clients, with coworkers, wi...

When your wife is upset, emotional, or confrontational, it’s easy to get reactive. There are a myriad of possibilities for how you could react, but some of the most common ones for men are: shutting down, getting defensive, or pushing back. Whatever ...

If you look at the downfall of a marriage, it’s not often that everything falls apart overnight. Most of the time, they actually fade in silence as well as through from one or both parties. Too much quiet distance, one too many unspoken frustrations,...

Here’s a thought exercise for you.

Imagine you’re walking along, and suddenly the ground gives out beneath you. You’re falling straight into a deep, dark pit. You land hard. It’s cold, disorienting, and you can barely see the light above you.

What ...